I had hope that being away from home had given me reprieve from home discontent. It seems clearly not. The thing is that the moment you come in contact with someone from home you can no longer sit on the fence and stall. Its back to haggling and compromising and trying to get your way while keeping everyone a little content. I am not even talking about making people happy. Existing in a family unit on a day to day basis makes you realize that you have been living in a kindergarten; you being one of the unreasonable and incompetent kid who refuses to move from her ass.
Having distance, has helped me to understand the futility of haggling and fighting or even talking about the petty issues which take a life of their own. When I am out of that warped place, I think "hey I think we are getting a little crazy here!!". Its also easy to be nice once you are away from home. One of the perks of seeing our parents less often is that I appear nicer to them than Bhai.
Having had the distance has allowed me to be more realistic about domestic tussles. I agree with what every person in the family :). Given the motives that drive them, I think they are in the "right". The best part of being away from them is that I can be on either side and at the same point or neither. Call me a bitch but it works. Till I have to jump into the fray and commit to one side I refuse to be drawn out. I will have to once I decide when I get married and have a family of my own. It will have a priority over the relationships I have right now. Maybe I will loose some of them, some of them will be distanced but as long as I can, I will hedge and bide my time.........
