I have been speaking to my sister in law lately. She is a part of 'art of life' group and as they say....... she is a believer. I have always scoffed at these self help things. But having spoken to her for some time now I am not sure being cynical about these things is much help either. I think there is a kernel of truth there. There is always something that one can connect to in the huge scheme of things that are covered in there.
For instance much ado about love; finding the "other half of you". I am a closet romantic and for the longest time I believed that there would be that one somebody who will connect to my soul or something is those lines. That one person who will be there when I sleep and when I wake up. Some one to share my happiness and despair. But a part of me (which is growing by the day) believes that this is all bull-crap. Lucky are those people who spend their lives in the happy oblivion of believing in the other half concept.
I think I need to be complete, content and confident in my own skin for anyone to like me. If I do not like myself, and not treat myself as a complete and sane person, no one else would . I would not like to be with myself, if truth be told. Chhavi (sis-in-law) tells me that I need to be happy from within. She says (and I quote here) "people like to be with happy souls not sad ones". I agree with her. I do not know many people who actively search for sad people, unless they are social workers or just plain masochist.
I look at it this way. I would much rather miss on the chocolate cake right now rather than miss out on the blackforest cake later. Actually scratch that off. I would probably break all the rules and gobble it up at the same time! I would get another comparison soon. But for all those hopeful monsters, its time you grew up.
