Women

I have seen that some women (sadly all Indian, I need variety!) have a tendency to play the victim. This would usually happen even if the situation has no need for a victim and a tormentor. It might just need a set of adults behaving their age. But no, how can we let that happen? I mean where is the melodrama that we so crave for in our everyday life. Most of it inspired by the decade long weepy serial tradition in India. We women have to make an issue about things. We refuse to rationalise and take levelheaded decisions. We absolutely have to take the story to absolute depths of emotional breakdowns or go to the peaks of euphoria. What happened to plain old ‘normal’? I sometimes feel that some people have lost the meaning of the word ‘normal’ somewhere far back in the past. The point when they started emotionally ‘immaturing’ themselves... most probably.

Take for example a simple case of girly gossiping. Person A tells person B something and requests her with all sincerity not to tell person C. Person B, the moron she is goes and does exactly the what she is told not to do. C makes an issue of not being told by A and throws a fit. Then A confronts B, who in turn confronts C. This whole muddle leads to some high drama fights, fit for everyday sitcom. In the end somehow in a strange turn of events A apologise to B. Now don’t ask me how and why it happened. But if you follow the story with the same piety as some follow a soap opera, there is a very high probability that you will understand how this happened.

It is not that women do not have the brains to behave like an adult. Chances are that if you are a woman and reading this blog, you probably have the minimum brain capacity to respond to a situation like a ‘normal’ person. But why do we women choose to over-dramatise a situation. Do we like to be sad? Do we feel that if we do not have one emotional outburst every three days we have not proved ourselves fit to be female of our species?

What is it that compels us to waste time and energy on melodrama? Is it that guys like women who look weak? Is this what it has boiled down to? Maybe so. I know quite a few guys who pride themselves to be “the guy” their girlfriends go to when they feel overwhelmed by whichever emotion it is…. But what is the end result of this? I do not feel that clinging to your partner for emotional support makes you or your relationship any better. If anything you are just giving the guy enough gun power to riddle you with wounds when he leaves you. If on the other hand you can handle your own mood swings, it makes you a more amiable person and you have much healthier relationship with everyone. Most importantly you will not attract the typical drama queen/king. I feel life would be a much better place to be in with a little less of screaming, crying and name-calling. Don’t you think?

Its moments like these that I remember Rex Harrison and Prof. Higgins saying "why can't a woman be like a man?" Sure most men are emotionally challenged, but having seen too many Hindi movie like dramas played out live..... I could use some change of atmosphere.